Motivate A Skeptic Husband

‘Two years ago when we got married the most important trait of our relationship was our friendship’, said Julian, ‘We used to understand each other very clearly and also give space whenever it is needed. But now he is very skeptic about me. He gets angry if I talk to my male colleague or, old friends. He asks a lot of question, it’s a kind of interrogation. He is very possessive. I’m felling helpless. What should I do?’ This is a common problem in today’s world. Because of this many happy relationships fall apart.

This picture is very familiar to us. This type of attitude destroys the friendly relationship between couples. Every relationship stands on the firm base of trust. Any shortfall on that point will lead to this kind of situation. But if couples try to solve misunderstanding between them life can get back the same tune again.

Try to think positively. May be your husband loves you a lot. The immense love for you is leading him to act like that. He doesn’t know your colleague and friends personally, that’s why he is feeling insecure. Introduce your husband to your colleague and friends. This will make him understand the relationship you are maintaining with them. He will not suffer from pointless anxiety any more.

Are you busy with your career and not passing enough time with your husband? May be, because of this he is thinking that you are in a new relationship. Be careful about this kind of misunderstanding. Send e-mail or text message to him when you are in your office. It will tell him that you really care about him. During weekend go to those places where the beautiful memories of your life lie.

After an argument don’t keep yourself away from him, rather try to do normal house hold works. While having meal, don’t sit side by side, sit just opposite to him. So, that you both will be able to each other. It will arouse his feeling for you.

See if there is any other problem in your husband’s professional career or not. Sometimes people become skeptic because of depression. In this case, give him enough space.

Your husband also has his own friend circle and colleagues. But don’t think that some other person is responsible for this. If you find your husband skeptic about you then talk to him frankly. He may not talk about it at first, but gradually try to understand what he is thinking of.

If this situation becomes unbearable or, out of your control, consult with a counselor and take suggestion.