Motivational Tips To Win Over A Disagreement

We face a range of disagreement in our daily life. It starts with difference of opinion and ends up in argument, which is very natural. Although it’s natural, it’s a negative attitude towards life. We treat it as an attack on our ‘ego’ and also try to hurt other’s feeling. Those who can avoid the results of dispute (successfully) know how to control the situation constructively.

The most important thing is at the moment of dispute we become the slave of another powerful emotion…… ‘Anger. As a result of this, we scream, shout and create pressure on people to believe our own opinion. It’s very tough to change people’s habit or, opinion by force. So, change your view, present a clear picture of your opinion nicely.

What makes us so angry and frustrated? At first, low tolerance; simply because of this we become annoyed. We can not tolerate those who ignore our feeling. So, if you want to win you have to control your anger. Find out the cause of getting annoyed. It may be selfishness, frustration, stress, tension and other such emotions. Whenever other people’s words or activity will make you fume remember the consequences of being angry.

If you tell someone that he is wrong, he will argue with all his effort. It’s one of the basic instincts of human beings to guard one’s pride. So, don’t hurt anyone at that point. At first you have to understand that person’s opinion whom you want to accept your opinion. You can defeat a person using your logic but he may not like it. If you want anyone to believe your opinion you have to transfer your idea technically inside him.

Let your opponent talk. If you stop him at the middle of his speech he will feel low and will become more emotional. After his statement if you see that he is still fuming ask him if there is anything more to tell about. If the reply is negative then ask him some questions which will let him tell the whole story again. You’ll see that only the option of conversation takes away half of his displeasure. It will help your opponent to control his emotion and he will be ready to listen to your words.

It’s better not to try to win lock, stock and barrel. Be satisfied if you win partially. Approve some good points of your opponent, and admit some error of your logic. You’ll see it will be easier to remove the disagreement.

So, controlling your emotion will let you be happy in the long run. Your happiness depends on the relation you maintain with the people around you.