Parenting demands to be an ideal…. Of course at times not viable

It is very common that child who doesn’t know what is head; learn by parents in a way that “Oh! I am having headache” or “don’t disturb me, I am much tensed”, or “don’t give me tension by doing….” Today we normally notice that child says that he is having headache. Parents are called upon school to take their child complaining severe headache, and his copy of school work is full of remarks like poor writing, improve your spellings, so many spelling mistakes etc. Ultimately it is normal practice to take child for eye testing and doctors impose in maxi minimum requirement even to have glasses for the child.

Connection of these two points (parents crying at home for headache; children in school or home plus his standard of work) child is not happy with studies and on the other hand constant complain of headache, links directly to the eye problem. However, mostly, it is not the case. Child also plays with a psychology of parents, they often heard from parents for having headache problem, hence, they need rest, no need to do work and insisted to sleep. If a child who is running out for studies or even avoiding going in any ceremony with parents, he knows that if he will say he is having headache, he will no more pressurized and parent themselves ask to take rest.

Though sounds funny as well as minor point to take in consideration, but when child is observed in such behavior we must get alert because in this way

• Child has learn to say lie
• Child got the reason for not doing studies or for any uninterested thing for him
• Some child, continuously observing their parents crying like this, psychologically, child started feeling the same, though he have no headache or stomached but crying may be to gain attention, or they are feeling insecure or just copying what mother is doing.

We often observe today that child sitting low, not take interest in co-curricular activities etc. may be one reason for this is the home environment where parents use to play tension tension, or remain unhealthy, this environment is making child sad, as observing how others are at home. It’s an unintentional behavior but leads to create problem in normal routine of life. Its is normally affecting

• Studies
• Co-curricular activities
• Behavior
• Preferences in spare time (stay idle)
• Both mentally and physically get unhealthy

Therefore, good parenting demands to hide such things in front of their children, that if the child picks that, it would be hazardous for his physical and mental health. Common observation in adolescents’ routine life is,

• Smoking or drinking habit
• Saying lie
• Less interested in studies
• As parent is not healthy, ultimately giving less attention to child that results in complexities
• Physically unhealthy without any major medical reason
• Remains mentally not relaxed that can be noticed by his eating behavior, sleeping timing, playing preferences etc.
• Circle of friends not belongs to normal family, behavior, activities etc.
• Not interested in productive things

And so many other things that generates only due to simple but continuous complain of headache by mother. For good parenting, parent need to be healthy first if they want their child healthy in all aspects as well as need to be very conscientious about their own behaviors that what if child is observing and can copy at any stage.